Last night I was in the bed thinking about life (my professional career, love life, my personal goals and what is next for me). As I get older I am learning how to be patient with myself. When I started my career, I wanted to have my Ph.D. and own a house before 30. I had to realize that is what just that my goals but God had some other plans. I am learning that it’s not in my time but in God’s time when things fall into place. It is ok to set deadlines, and say when. When it comes to some goals, there is never a perfect time. Taking time to be gentle with yourself is imperative. The seeds of change grow gently, sometimes almost imperceptibly. Transformation takes time. I am personally working on letting go of unrealistic expectations of how quickly I, or others, need to develop and change.