Friday night I had a conversation with someone that I have been missing. I explained that I was starting to make some changes because I have been working too hard. I expressed that this weekend I had no plans on leaving my house because I wanted to rest, and lounge. On Sunday, I sent him a text message stating that I thought about his words, and I took the time just to relax, and lounge all weekend. It was nice to sit around in pajamas all weekend and watch television. Have you been working too hard at your job, at life, at your emotional progress? Have you been working too hard on your relationships with people, on trying to gain insights, or on trying to figure out where to go or what to do next? Many of us have had to work hard in life because nothing is given to us. To get from where we were to where we are, we have to stop being comfortable, and move forward. There’s a natural rhythm for everything that happens along the way. There are a natural rhythm and order for all we’re to do. Yes, there are times to begin. Yes, there are times to put one foot in front of the other and walk away. But the joy, the service, the way of life we’re seeking doesn’t come from force. It comes naturally, easily, much more easily than you think. Stop pushing so hard and working so much on different things, and see how quickly that rhythm finds you. You don’t have to make life happen. In fact, you can’t. Relax. Let go. And let it happen.
it is important to respect the power of words and thoughts, both your own and others.’ When I sit down to write sometimes my ideas and inspirations come from other people, come from outside of us. If we are not cautious, it is easy for others to put their ideas and intentions into our minds. We don’t have to let others make us think or feel a certain way. Do not let other people put things into your head. Choose the words you share with others carefully. Words are powerful.
Clutter is not just the stuff on the floor. It’s anything that stands between you and the life you want to be living.
Recently I celebrated a birthday with someone and they are having a difficult time with getting older. I have come to a place where I am comfortable with getting older, as each decade of life brings its own challenges, joys, sorrows, and teachings. Yes, there are a few things I wanted by a certain age, and I think that is the overachiever within myself. I am learning that it’s not about my time, but in God’s time is the right time. I am learning to trust the lessons of each cycle of my life. I am happy with where I am in life. Each moment is a moment of life, your life and remembers to make each moment count. There is no day but today. What does getting older mean to you?
When you are busy creating your own fulfillment, you won’t feel the need to seek it from others.
Recently I have been conversing with my support team about making some changes in my life. One of the things I have been thinking about is taking time to rest. I closed on my home at the end of May, and I have been so busy that I have not taken the time to spend a complete day lounging. This past weekend my last presentation of 2014 was cancelled, and I was thinking today is the first day of summer.
Summer is one of my favorite seasons because I was born in August, and I love it when it is warm, and in full bloom. On last week, I was posed the question “When you are an overachiever how do you find time to rest.” I was taken aback by the question because it is something I struggle with. The reason I am constantly struggling with relaxation is because my parents taught me while you are sleeping someone else is working twice as hard to achieve things in life. When I visited my father during the summer, I observed his work ethic and he was always doing something productive from the morning until late at night. At the end of the night, he would shower, get him some grapes, and sit down in the floor and read a novel. Same thing with my mother she would work long hours to provide for me and my siblings with everything we needed and wanted. For me, I am constantly working hard to reach and make sure I am utilizing my God given talents.
I digressed a little………………To answer the question we need to learn how to relax, how to unwind. It is important to find something that’s relaxing, healing, soothing, and available to you. For me I love going to the beach, placing my feet in the sand, and laying in the sun. I also enjoy taking a long bath, taking day trips, and spending quality time with family, and friends. This past weekend I took some time to relax and enjoy my house. On Sunday, I went to the Rehoboth Beach with some friends and relaxed in the sun for a few hours.
The remaining of the summer I am planning to take time to relax, spend time with friends, and family, and enjoy the fruits of my labor. Keep in mind that summer isn’t forever in the DMV, so I do not plan to ruin it with arguing with anyone, or entertaining any negativity. My goal is fully to immerse myself in good times, and enjoy the fullness of summer.
We may have become comfortable with colder times, that we’ve forgotten how to enjoy the sun, and the warmth, and the good times. Each moment in our lives is important. To live fully in joy, we need to learn to enjoy the good times as well as weather the storms. You can’t change your past, and your future has not happened. Focus your energy on enjoying the moment you are living right now. Tomorrow’s lessons will take care of themselves. I am excited about my family and friends arriving at the end of the summer to celebrate another milestone in my life.
Therapist corner: Keep in mind that happiness can be ours if we just remember to be happy. Joy is a choice-a deliberate, a conscious choice. Each day we wake up in the morning, and the choice to be happy is available to us.
(TGIPF) This morning I was listening to Fantasia “Bump what your friends say” and the song made me think about a lot of things. If you are feeling confused, alone, unsure of what to do next, go back to a place you can trust—– your heart. In matters of work, money, love, go back to your heart. Are you unsure of the map, uncertain of the next step on your journey, or wondering how to untangle the mess of a broken heart? The answers are not in your head, it’s in your heart. It’s not outside of you, although sometimes we receive guidance from others. The answers you’re seeking, the guidance you’re seeking needs to feel right to you. It needs to resonate with your heart. Have a blessed weekend!
I am learning to give but not allow myself to be used. It is important to love but do not allow your heart to be abused. Trust but don’ t be naive. Listen to others, but don’t lose your own voice.
Happy Hump Day: When we relinquish control of our lives to someone else, we also relinquish responsibility for our happiness, our well-being, our growth, and our choices. It’s healthy to want to be nurtured by someone. I admit when I am not feeling 100 it’s something I need. A significant other can make our lives easier. We are sent helpers, friends, and lovers. I am learning the difference between receiving help and support and being controlled. There’s a difference to surrendering to love and surrendering to control. Therapist Corner: Don’t make other people responsible for delineating your boundaries. It’s your job to take responsibility for your choices, happiness, your well-being, your comings, your goings, and your own journey. Start to set yourself free. Love exists only where freedom exists. Create relationships that are equal. Sometimes you have to tell yourself “no more” to achieve more in life. You are responsible for your own happiness.
As you get older you realize who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore, and who always will. In the end you learn who is fake, which is true, who is supportive, who is loyal, and who love you. They’re the ones who see you for who you are and no matter what, always find a way to be at your side. I am grateful that I have a supportive family and friends who remain beside me every significant milestone. SN: I am not perfect person I make alot of mistakes…….but still, I love my family and friends who stay with me after knowing how I really am. I am learning the less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become. If you do not feed, it will not grow. Blessings are meant to be shared, not compared.