As I sit on the plane writing this note I’m reflecting on the past two weeks I have been dismissing people who do not provide my life with any value, meaning, or substance. Some people do not even realize they’ve been dismissed, but in time you will. I understand that people come into your life for whatever reason. Some come into your life to teach you a valuable lesson, and others are a blessing from God. I had someone send me a message on yesterday and it made me think about the lessons of 2014. After reading the long message I simply replied “Message received. Take care.” A few people this year became my lesson. The thing about a lesson is once you learn them, you don’t have to revisit them again. Through my experiences and practice I encourage you to live boldly, and love hard because it’s an amazing experience. Don’t be afraid to be transparent with the individuals who have your best interest at heart. The people who are not concerned about you then it’s perfectly fine to guard your heart, and dismiss them. Living in the here and now is ultimately the best thing we can do. Errors make you human, and you don’t always have to be strong to be strong. Sometimes our strength is expressed in being vulnerable. Give everything and have no regrets. Everything happens for a reason. Don’t stress the could haves. If it should have, it would have. I’m headed to my mom so we can start cooking for thanksgiving. Now we have one month left to finish the book of 2014. Make the last chapter a good one 😘
You can lead a horse to water but can’t make it drink”. You can be patient with the horse, though.
Discover the power of loving yourself
This weekend I had the opportunity to have a lot of productive conversations. From the weekend I was able to realize that one of the most empowering phrases I know is “It’s not about me”. Each and every one of us has our on personal struggles that we are dealing with on a daily basis. Sometimes on this journey we call life it is full of sudden twists, turns, and storms. When something unexpected or painful happens, when we become blocked or frustrated, when life takes a different course than we hoped it would, it’s easy to stop trusting the flow of our lives. I didn’t ask for this. It’s not fair. I don’t want this, we think. This road isn’t leading us anywhere, at least anywhere I would like to be headed at this point in my life. Often, when we feel life has turned on us, we respond by turning on ourselves. But turning on ourselves doesn’t help. In fact, it can compound the situation. It can prevent us from hearing and acting on the very guidance that will lead us through, get us through, and take us to the next place. It can prevent us from hearing out heart.
Keep loving yourself, and taking care of yourself, no matter what—–through the storms, the twists, the turns, and the blocks. Take a moment, breathe deep, and restore yourself to that sacred place of self-love and self-responsibility. Feel all your feelings. Then let them go. Love
yourself until you can hear your hear and what it tells you to do. Love yourself until you find the courage to act on that guidance.
Loving yourself is a powerful tool, a powerful force for change. It can reconnect you to creativity, to universal love, to the best possible flow of events within your life. There is a trustworthy road through whatever life brings. Loving yourself will help you find it.