As I am sitting at my desk making a list of people that I am going to invite to my upcoming dinner party I’m thinking about how I am grateful to have a great tribe of friends and family members who support me unconditionally. My tribe consists of individuals who have remained consistent, genuine, and loyal.
The five closest people in our lives are a direct reflection of our values and integrity. They are the mirror of our choices. Everyone we include in our lives is a part of our tribe, and that tribe is greater than we can truly know. They can be the weight that has us playing small or the springboard to our evolution. Remember relationships are about giving and taking things.
Does your tribe reflect your values and integrity?
It is important to realize that we are not backup plans or spare tires for anyone. We need to be able to tell people “Don’t pick me because the other person is busy or not responding to your text messages. Don’t pick me because you did not have any other choices. You don’t settle for me, and I do not settle for you. We are just on the edge of being out of each other’s leagues.” Then at some point, we need to realize that sometimes we have known people for a long time but are on two different roads that may never run tandem but will merge with each other throughout life. Sometimes we give up too soon on something (or someone) that may have been meant to have more than a seasonal purpose. We cling to those who were only supposed to have a small role in our lives.
Sometimes though it takes experiencing hurt, anger, frustration, sadness, and brokenness to help us gain a greater appreciation of what you let go of. The cliché grass isn’t always greener on the other side can often be accurate, so if you know you have something or someone of value or who have untapped potential, it may be more beneficial to hold on to it than to chase something new. Sometimes we wonder how we got so lucky and what else we can do to design and build a greater partnership, which pushes each other to achieve anything and everything.
On the plane en route to the conference this year, I thought this will be might be my last year presenting at the NASW-LA conference. I also was considering not renewing my contract with Continuing Education as a presenter. As I wrap up this week, I am deeply humbled and grateful from all the love I received during the breaks and after my presentations this week. One of my practicum supervisors from Overton Brooks VA Medical Center attended my workshop on Wednesday and Thursday. She expressed that she was extremely proud of me and my professional growth in the field. Meeting the students and reminded me of why I am doing this. It was a great feeling to receive positive feedback and students requesting to contact me about being their mentor.
I am grateful for my family (Mom, Cynthia, Audria, Cyrille, Christopher, Rhani, Danisha, Meghan, & Carey) that love and supports me no matter what. It’s a great feeling to look in the crowd and see your mother smiling in excitement. This week reminded me of why I became a social worker. As I continue my professional journey, I am learning that real success comes in small portions day by day.
Do you remember why you chose a certain profession?
I am a social worker because I have always been a proponent for helping others in any manner that I can. In 2005, I began my journey to become a social worker because of my desire to positively affect the lives of others ethically, legally, and morally. For me, no day is ever the same in the life of a social worker, but I enjoy the daily challenges and the environment to use my analytical skills on a consistent basis. I appreciate this profession as it allows reaching those individuals who are in need of guidance and encouragement in their lives.